Burnout: why rest doesn't help
Burnout: how to recognise it, how it differs from ordinary tiredness and from depression, why a holiday doesn't fix it, what recovery involves and what helps.
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Loneliness: why it's so hard to find your people
Loneliness: why people can feel alone even among friends or with a partner, why it keeps itself going, how to find the right people and what really helps.
Highly sensitive person: why you get overstimulated so easily
Highly sensitive person: what high sensitivity is, how it feels from the inside, how it differs from anxiety, introversion or autism, and what helps day to day.
Narcissism: why it matters so much to feel special
Narcissism from the inside: why self-worth swings between feeling exceptional and worthless, how a personality type differs from a disorder, and what helps.
Low self-esteem: why praising yourself doesn't help
Low self-esteem: how it shows up day to day, why compliments and success don't change it, where it comes from and what actually helps.
Panic attack: why it feels like you're dying
Panic attack: what happens in the body, why it feels like dying, what keeps attacks coming back, what to do during one and when to see a doctor.
Depression: why "pull yourself together" doesn't work
Depression: its symptoms, why dark thoughts feel true, what causes it, how antidepressants work, what helps day to day and when to get help.
Alexithymia: when you can't tell what you're feeling
Alexithymia: what it is like when feelings have no words, why emotions show up in the body, where it comes from, how it affects relationships and what helps.
Dissociation: when reality feels like a dream
Dissociation: what depersonalisation and derealisation feel like, why they happen, why they are not a sign of going mad, and what helps the feeling of unreality pass.
Procrastination: it's not laziness
Procrastination: how it shows up, why it is about feelings rather than laziness, who is prone to it, what it costs and what helps to finally start.
Overthinking: why your thoughts go round in circles
Overthinking: why thoughts go round in circles, why it feels useful, what it does to sleep and mood, and what helps to step out of the loop.
Imposter syndrome: "I just got lucky"
Imposter syndrome: how it shows up, where it comes from, who is prone to it, what it costs, and what helps to take one's own achievements in.
Gaslighting: "You're imagining it"
Gaslighting: how it works, why it is so hard to notice in a close relationship, how it differs from an ordinary disagreement, and what helps to trust oneself again.
Anhedonia: when nothing brings any joy
Anhedonia: what it is like when nothing brings joy, why pleasure fades, how it differs from apathy and numbness, what helps and when to get help.
Anxiety for no reason: where it comes from when nothing's wrong
Anxiety for no reason: why it can appear without a clear cause, what quietly fuels it, how to calm down quickly, and when it is time to get help.
Insomnia: why your mind won't switch off at night
Insomnia: why thoughts keep sleep away, why people wake at 3am, what helps in the evening, at night and in the morning, and when it is time to see a GP.
Rejection sensitivity: why being turned down hurts so much
Rejection sensitivity: why a short reply or silence can hurt so much, how it shows up in relationships and at work, and what helps people react more calmly.
Limerence (obsessive love): when you can't stop thinking about someone
Limerence, or obsessive love: how it works, what it is linked to, how long it lasts, what a person can do themselves and when to get professional help.
After divorce: grief, children and starting again
Coping after divorce: why it hurts even when it was right, how most people recover, what helps, how children can be protected and when to seek support.
First therapy session: what actually happens
First therapy session: what usually happens, how to prepare, why the relationship with the therapist matters, how many sessions people need and what comes next.
Private therapy or the NHS: how to choose in London
Private therapy or the NHS in London: what NHS Talking Therapies offers, current waiting times, costs, confidentiality, how to check a therapist and how to choose.
People pleasing: why saying no feels so hard
People pleasing: why some people find it so hard to say no, how it differs from ordinary kindness, where it comes from and what helps to change the pattern.
Attachment styles: how early bonds shape adult relationships
Attachment styles: where they come from, how anxious and avoidant patterns play out in adult relationships, whether they can change and what really helps.
Perfectionism and burnout: when nothing feels good enough
Perfectionism and burnout: why high standards can wear people down, how burnout is defined, why trying harder rarely helps and what makes a real difference.